I suppose in a sense I've come to embrace being an introvert, with the concomitant realization that the net energy expenditure required to construct/maintain/"find" a relationship in the usual fashion isn't a cost I'm interested in spending. [By "the usual fashion" I mean the standard suite of advised actions like getting out and meeting people, being more overtly friendly and approachable, chatting people up, etc.]
No relationship I have is going to be 'normal' in any case, simply because I'm not. So it's pointless to apply normative standards to the situation - it would be like trying to measure mass in days, say. Difficult, not terribly informative, and prone to false negatives.
So (for the moment at least) I have relinquished my determination that the universe is unable to surprise me. I still keep an eyebrow cocked at it, nevertheless.