As the credits were rolling, I heard a number of people in the audience remark that it was a bit too tidy, that everything wrapped up much too neatly in the end. I can understand that criticism, especially regarding the epilogue. Everyone who survives lives happily together on the farm, and even Nicole Kidman's character isn't too badly off considering she and her love only actually spent about 72 hours in each other's presence, all told. So much of her relationship with him (and vice versa) was in her head, writing to him and thinking about him while he was away at the war. After he dies, she essentially goes back to that mode of relating to him - especially since for much of the time he was away in the army she didn't know if he was alive or dead, either. And she has their child - and the trope being that gives her an absorbing, fulfilling and emotionally satisfying link to him even in death as well as being the fruition of her role as a women, it's obvious that it's meant to be enough. And it seems to be - as I said, the close of the film comes damn close to "and they all lived happily ever after, the end".
[I'm going to have to finish this later, I have to dash off to see Big Fish.]